Well, for a start it can be bad for your physical health. In the realm of mindbody medicine, it has been found that most of the people who suffer from what Dr John Sarno calls TMS are perfectionists.
As I was painting these designs for fridge magnets (and other things!) I was listening to BBC Radio 3. In between playing pieces of wonderful flute music, Jed Wentz, the flute-player, was chatting to the presenter. I was only half-listening but suddenly I heard him say, 'Perfection is fine but it's not sexy...' That's as much as I managed to jot down but later I found his website where you can read the whole of what he said in context, down towards the end of the page.
- One is to prioritise, to decide what is really important, what it is that makes you want to get out of bed in the morning and make that your priority. Returning to the subject of 'immaculate houses', I love to see my brass door handles winking at me, to smell the beeswax on my old pine furniture and to be able to look out through my windows at the garden through sparkling glass panes, from a kitchen with a floor 'you could eat your dinner off'.. But I know that if I am to have time to paint, write, garden, go walking and chat with friends and family on a regular basis and keep up with the 'necessary evils' such as bill-paying, dental check-ups and car servicing, something has to give.So the house has to make do with a 'once-over' now and then - and the bonus is that it has become such a treat when all those extra, non-essential jobs are done, and the house is all bright and shining, for instance, in time for the family's arrival for Christmas!
- The second is to firmly and vigorously boot out any traces of that nagging inner critic's voice that chants, 'Be ye perfect' - it's a mistranslation in any case!
- The third, and perhaps the most important, is to maintain your sense of humour.